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Re: Could you date someone who doesn't read?

Post by Bookcool123 » 03 Aug 2018, 02:42

Yes. That someone may not be into reading stuffs that you like. But that person, in actuality, could be reading you because your life is a book.

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Post by pixiequeer » 03 Aug 2018, 14:34

I'm currently dating someone who does not read, but our conversations not very fulfilling. All he watches is anime, and I hate anime. Neither one of us watch TV outside of that.

Although, he did somehow get me to watch Fairy Tail.

Although I don't know what it's like to date someone who does read, I'm going to assume it is much more fulfilling, as would be the conversations. I grew up around a few avid readers, so it's hard being so singled out because I read and no longer associate with anyone else who does.

His grandma reads, but they're western romance novels, which I have no interest in :lol2:

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Post by AshleyShadowWolf » 03 Aug 2018, 19:31

Being an avid reader isn’t the first trait I would want in a boyfriend but it would be nice seeing as eighty precent of the time I’m reading. So I don’t believe I’d be able to date someone who doesn’t at least enjoy reading a good book now and again.

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Post by dbulkley » 04 Aug 2018, 12:01

I would say no, but would depend on other things as well. I'd say this is more on the minor detail list. My wife doesn't like horror movies, which I love, but she loves to read.
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Post by Christineegm » 06 Aug 2018, 17:30

i would definitely prefer if they enjoyed to read but it wouldn’t be a huge deciding factor for me as long as they understood I need time to read and rant.

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Post by Mee_maw » 07 Aug 2018, 13:18

As someone said earlier on, some non readers can have a glaring ignorance that is astonishing, that kind I can never date.

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Post by AnnaKathleen » 09 Aug 2018, 17:19

I think it depends. If they don't really read, can't understand or appreciate my reading and don't really want to hear about what I'm reading then I won't be very engaged with them. However, if they want to hear about the book and talk to me about it despite the fact they don't get any pleasure from reading then possibly. Not everyone is going to enjoy what you do nor will you enjoy everything they do, but if you can meet half-way and appreciate and respect, for lack of better phrasing, the hobby of one another then I think it's possible. And who knows? You might just convert them into a reader :D
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Post by Hailey Swift » 10 Aug 2018, 10:18

I always tell my family that I want someone who has the same hobbies and interests as I do. Reading is such a large part of my life; it's something I favour over watching movies or t.v. I have friends who tease me for reading so much because they don't understand why I enjoy it so much.

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Post by miraswan » 11 Aug 2018, 14:25

My last boyfriend didn't seem to enjoy reading, he was a bit like Gaston in that regard ("You're reading?! Does it have pictures at least?") so I guess it would really depend on what type of person they are. If they are the type who will constantly interrupt my reading, or the type who will belittle the time I spend reading for no reason, or something equally negative then it would be a deal breaker. If someone doesn't enjoy reading, but they let me enjoy it and we find other topics to talk about (bonus points if I can prattle about the book I'm reading and they listen even slightly) then I have no qualms with dating someone who doesn't read. I wish I had a more concrete answer for this question, but the only answer I have is this: it depends.

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Post by Rapicon » 12 Aug 2018, 04:57

A reader is a king,I can't date someone who doesn't like to read if he can't read that's different

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Post by xBibliobibulix » 12 Aug 2018, 13:17

I'd like to say yes, that if it's the right person then it won't matter. But, I have dated several people who don't read, not read a little but don't read at all and it was just a disaster. Having likes that are different and interests that vary is a good thing but one of the main parts of my personality is books and reading (I'm a librarian so even my job revolves around books) and I have found that I can't really talk to someone about books who doesn't read, they either get bored or try to change the subject. Even someone who reads infrequently I'm okay with because they can hold a conversation about books. It's all about the conversation for me.
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Post by klwoodford » 13 Aug 2018, 02:45

I am unsure. I have in the past, but those relationships never worked out. My fiance enjoys reading and has suggested a ton of book he thinks I would like. I love that we're able to discuss literature and the conversations that develop over certain books. I don't think I could ever go back to not having that.

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Post by E_Thompson7 » 13 Aug 2018, 21:59

Ah... this describes my husband! He HATES reading anything longer than a paragraph, and that's okay.
He exercises his mind in other ways, and it results in a very emotinally strong, intelligent, and creative man who loves deeply and works extremly hard.
There was a time I thought I could never so much as date a person who hated reading, but now it feels ludicrous that anyone could turn up their nose to someone as wonderful as he simply because they don't read; who knows, you may find that they actually nourish your perspicacity.

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Post by Taekwondoqueen » 14 Aug 2018, 13:38

I hope that never happens to me! If there was somebody like that and they asked me on a date then I would say if it was only in the library cafe.

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Post by blossomjin » 15 Aug 2018, 21:28

If the person who I like and wish to date was not a reader it would not make much of a difference to me. A lot of my close friends are only occasional readers and I am still able to maintain meaningful relationships with them. It's different if the person you're dating is dismissive of your love of reading. It's all about having a mutual respect for one another's hobbies.

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