People treat you how you treat them?

Discuss the December 2015 book of the month Burn Zones by Jorge P. Newbery.
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Post by Paliden » 24 Jan 2016, 10:30

tracy19 wrote:I totally agree with that sentiment. As the saying goes "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you".
I agree. The "saying" is actually Scripture though. Lol! And it is very true. I have been in several circumstances where I was dealing with someone that was acting very rude. I continued to be respectful and courteous and after a bit, their whole attitude changed.
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Post by zoelaurynn » 25 Jan 2016, 12:46

I think that the idea that people will treat you how the treat them is a nice concept, but in reality, it's much too simple. No matter how many times I load my dish in the dishwasher when it isn't my dish night, my sister will always leave hers on the counter for someone else to pick up after her (simplified example, I know).

In reality, the bad guys win sometimes. I do agree that you should treat others how you would like to be treated, but rarely does this actually happen.

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Post by Rachaelamb1 » 26 Jan 2016, 04:53

Paliden wrote:
tracy19 wrote:I totally agree with that sentiment. As the saying goes "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you".
I agree. The "saying" is actually Scripture though. Lol! And it is very true. I have been in several circumstances where I was dealing with someone that was acting very rude. I continued to be respectful and courteous and after a bit, their whole attitude changed.
That verse is exactly what came to my mind also! And then reading your example the verse that came to mind was, "Do not repay evil for evil..."
Of course, people do not always change and some will still be rude and mistreat you regardless of how you respond, but at least having a proper response will keep you from becoming like that!
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Post by rssllue » 26 Jan 2016, 04:55

Scripture definitely has a lot of Godly wisdom in it! :D
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Post by ALynnPowers » 27 Jan 2016, 04:29

Scott wrote: Do you find this is also true in your experience? I do.
YES! I do!! I am going through this exact same kind of situation at work right now, training someone.... I actually really like this girl, but my boss didn't like her from the beginning and told me and the other trainers that she would be really hard to work with and might not be a good teacher. Yet... I've personally not seem any reason to think that she is not a good teacher. But another trainer went in and was like, looking for ways that she would fail... which in turn made the new girl super nervous and mess up more, thus fulfilling the prophesy that she is not good!

Wait, I think I might have just gone off on a tangent with my story, but I could relate so I just wanted to share. And vent. That's what book club is for, right? We can talk about how our own experiences relate to the books? Well, that's how I see it.

I didn't read this book, by the way. But I still get the point...

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Post by Mntgrl1969 » 27 Jan 2016, 10:07

A smile gets a smile , a hug can heal a wound. Just being nice and kind can always help. Treating other as I would like to be treated though does not always benefit me of the other person. People are always in their own place, dealing with their own stuff and sometimes..they want to stay there. But, it certainly doesn't hurt to try.

-- 27 Jan 2016, 10:07 --

A smile gets a smile , a hug can heal a wound. Just being nice and kind can always help. Treating other as I would like to be treated though does not always benefit me of the other person. People are always in their own place, dealing with their own stuff and sometimes..they want to stay there. But, it certainly doesn't hurt to try.

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Post by Gravy » 28 Jan 2016, 02:56

ALynnPowers wrote:
Scott wrote: Do you find this is also true in your experience? I do.
YES! I do!! I am going through this exact same kind of situation at work right now, training someone.... I actually really like this girl, but my boss didn't like her from the beginning and told me and the other trainers that she would be really hard to work with and might not be a good teacher. Yet... I've personally not seem any reason to think that she is not a good teacher. But another trainer went in and was like, looking for ways that she would fail... which in turn made the new girl super nervous and mess up more, thus fulfilling the prophesy that she is not good!

Wait, I think I might have just gone off on a tangent with my story, but I could relate so I just wanted to share. And vent. That's what book club is for, right? We can talk about how our own experiences relate to the books? Well, that's how I see it.

I didn't read this book, by the way. But I still get the point...
I've seen things like this before :(
Personal prejudices will almost always get in the way. I would love to be able to climb up on a soapbox and say I have none, but I do...we all do if we're honest. But I do try to remember to think past them, and even succeed sometimes :lol:

Actually...a book I read is one of the reasons I remember to see past it :)
You're nobody's rainbow.
You're nobody's princess.
You're nobody's doorway but your own,
and the only one who gets to tell you

how your story ends is you.
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Post by shelley_soetosenojo » 09 Feb 2016, 16:35

If you treat people with respect and kindly in most cases you get the same treatment in return. However there are some people on this Earth who are so bitter and always think that the world is against them, you begin to wonder what the cause is of their negative behavior and why their need of treating people so badly.
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Post by DesiP » 09 Feb 2016, 18:32

I think that people treating you how you treat them depends on where you live. I have lived in a big city and in a small town and I have noticed that in the big city people tended to treat me rudely no matter how I treated them, whereas in the small town people tended to be nice and polite no matter what.
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Post by Dyslexic-Superhero » 17 Feb 2016, 11:54

I work with adults with special needs so I see on a regular basis how people can treat their fellow humans. It's the hard because even when people are being nice they try to treat my clients like children. I hate when someone acts like I'm a twelve year old just because I look young so I try to treat everyone with respect.

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Post by npandit » 22 Feb 2016, 00:37

I'm curious to know what stereotypes waiters use when deciding whether someone will tip well or not. Anyway, I think the hardest thing is to bite one's tongue and be the bigger person when faced with a person who refuses to be 'as nice' as you are to them. Eventually, karma will come around to bite them, but it's still challenging to get to a state of mind where you can be nice to everyone regardless of how they treat you.

It would be interesting to reflect on your own life and look at all the good and bad things and assess, from them, that if it's due to something you are putting out there in the world; what is it? And how can you change it? Interesting discussion.
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Post by CataclysmicKnight » 23 Feb 2016, 21:43

I really, truly do believe in the "people treat you as you treat them," although with the stipulations that it's not ALWAYS true and sometimes it takes a while. I'm a friendly, positive person and most people, even if they're rude or cold, eventually gain that positivity and kindness toward myself and others after enough time! :D
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Post by Gravy » 24 Feb 2016, 04:05

Dyslexic-Superhero wrote:I hate when someone acts like I'm a twelve year old just because I look young so I try to treat everyone with respect.
:text-yeahthat:

I always enjoy how, somehow, height equates to age. Not to mention, as you said, looking younger than you are.
Nevermind you can be double the age you look, you're still treated like a "kid" even when people know your real age :laughing-rolling:

I agree with you 100%!
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You're nobody's princess.
You're nobody's doorway but your own,
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Post by HorrorFan87 » 28 Feb 2016, 16:31

I definitely see that in everyday life. I used to work as a cashier at Walmart...let's just say as far as treating people how you were treated can be seen very often. I try to treat others with respect and kindness but there are some people that either do not appreciate it either way (they tend to think they are above those who actual follow the rules of common decency) or just treat you like crap anyway. I try not to judge but man...it's unfortunate how many people actually tend to stereotype or criticize based upon what they see, not what they know. All in all, we should treat others how we would want to be treated, even though we may want to provide some backlash if we are treated poorly.

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Gravy wrote:
Dyslexic-Superhero wrote:I hate when someone acts like I'm a twelve year old just because I look young so I try to treat everyone with respect.
:text-yeahthat:

I always enjoy how, somehow, height equates to age. Not to mention, as you said, looking younger than you are.
Nevermind you can be double the age you look, you're still treated like a "kid" even when people know your real age :laughing-rolling:

I agree with you 100%!

Mmmmhmmmm, I know what you mean. I'm not short nor am I in my teens, but I know that people tend to dis on me when they find out I have depression or diabetes. They equate having a mental or physical illness as being different and then treat you like crap for it. It really hurts sometimes when someone finds out I have depression and then all of a sudden I'm sad all the time, or "Oh, you have a smile today. You're not depressed." Man it grinds on me...
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Post by MatthewAlexander » 07 Apr 2016, 09:14

I agree with Scott; I don't think that saying is necessarily true. People who have had everything handed to them and have been treated well by others around them can be the rudest people you'll ever meet. People who have put down and treated badly by most people can be the kindest. I think the reason behind that is that when you have an understanding of what it's like to be mistreated, you're less likely to mistreat others. So I don't think people treat you like you treat them. I think the saying "treat others as you want to be treated" is truer.
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