Rion's problem in social mingling, was it because of him or his mother?

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To some extent, his mother is the main component driving Rion's relationship with others. But the reason he shuts himself off from others lies in himself, as he makes decisions for himself.
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I looked at it closely, and I blame the mother for his loneliness. They weren't really that open with each other and not close, just like a proper mother and son paring should be. I guess parents are really the reason why kids end up either good or bad.
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It takes time to form a bond with someone, so it's understandable when Rion didn't try getting to know new people. He's expecting they'll part ways someday soon. However, if he tried to keep in touch with his old friends even when far away, he'd have at least one person to talk to. With the emergence of better technology for communication, it's easier to met people from afar. Sadly, Rion didn't see that it matters, so he didn't bother. It's sad that his mother didn't fully explain their situation, so I see why she could be at fault.
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I can say changing schools is the primary reason for his social awkwardness. He knows that he won't stay there for long and consequently does not make any effort at being social.
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I think it is a combination of his circumstances and his attitude towards them. They move a lot, so the interactions are short-lived. Meaningful connections are difficult to establish. It probably frustrates him to start friendships, knowing that they will not last. So, he does not bother to invest emotionally with new acquaintances. He would rather spend his time honing his special gift. He probably thinks that this is more productive and finds comfort in it. The ability stays with him and may develop in time, unlike people who come and go. The loneliness is the consequence of his choice.
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I think all had significant impact in his loneliness. Moving is traumatic and it is difficult being stuck in a cycle making new friends (especially for an introvert). I think he is protecting himself from the constant loss. Not having support and openness with his mother leads to self reliance and loneliness as well.
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I don't think you can place the blame more on one or the other. Rion was responding to his circumstances. He was protecting himself by not allowing himself to make friends. However, they start to sneak in. Moving a lot makes it hard to open up, especially as a child. His mother was doing his best to protect him. She believed it was in Rion's best interest not to open up. Yes, this affected Rion even more. It is just a vicious circle of choices that everyone thought was for the best.
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Moving around a lot must have deeply affected him. Forming attachments with people you are going to leave can be very hurtful. So I think he did it to protect himself.
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Moving from school to school constantly is difficult on any child, introvert or extrovert. I think this made it difficult for Rion to make friends, afraid he would have to leave again and start the process all over. His abilities too played a role in his lack of friends. It would be normal for him to feel out of place and therefore keep himself as a closed book.
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It is his responsibility to establish a connection with others for his age. However, I believe her mother has had a significant influence on why Rion has developed a conflict regarding social mingling. Furthermore, I can't really blame Rion for that because we're all different and may have characteristics we don't want or expect to have. Whether he is willing to socialize or not, I believe I must respect his choices in life.
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Post by Damis Seres Rodriguez »

I believe both parts contributed. Moving so much and not having enough time to develop solid relationships was definitely a huge part of that issue. But eventually I think to some degree he stoped caring. And when someone stops caring or simply gives up there's not much that other people can do to change the situation. So yeah, his mother contributed to it, but ultimately it was him the one isolating himself.
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Sushan wrote: 01 Sep 2021, 00:32 Rion did not have any long-term friends. And it seems like he is not even trying to have any. Seemingly he is an introvert who is shy to talk with strangers, and also content with his loneliness. His unusual ability led him to think of him as an alien, and it too supported his nature to remain further.
I ignore them before heading to my favorite classroom position. Nothing says don’t talk to me like the back corner window seat.
(Location 91 - Kindle version)
I give an apathetic nod, coupled with my best faulty smile, before turning back toward the window. I avoid making eye contact with any other student. The chirping birds have my attention for the next few minutes,[/quote] (Location 113 - Kindle version)

But we see how he could not remain in one place (or one school) because of his mother's job. It is common for a student to feel awkward when going to a new school, and it is fair for a usual student to require some time to make new friends.
New schools. New surroundings. I’ve done them so many times they’ve become as much of a routine as tying my shoes.
(Location 66 - Kindle version)
This is my sixth school in four years
(Location 84 - Kindle version)

Ultimately these reasons made Rion a lonely fellow. Even the connection between him and his mother was not too strong. Which component contributed his loneliness the most? Was it his nature? Was it his mother's frequent change of locations? Or was it because his mother was never really open with him?
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On the one hand, Rion could have been introvert by nature. On the other hand, his mother's secretiveness and frequent travel may have reinforced this trait.
Perhaps Rion's mother was an introvert too. :roll:
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Post by Amaka Ike »

Changing of school and environment isn't a very good thing on any human being, this thing called friend is not easy to make and come by. So his mum changing location had a great deal on him and look g at the kind of person he is and the power he possess, its won't be easy for him to socialise perperly
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Post by Ekezie1998 »

Indeed a change of environment can engineer certain behavioral changes in each one of us. However, I find it hard to believe that Rion’s solitary tendencies is entirely down to his mother’s frequent change of jobs or location. It seems to me that he doesn’t even try to mingle and the problem may be more internal than outward.
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Post by MysticSpade »

I believe Rion's problem was created out of survival. He knew he wouldn't be in one spot for a long period of time. So instead of creating trustworthy relationships and friendships, he avoided everyone all together to avoid repetitive heartbreak.
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