Do you think free will man-made relations are stronger than blood relations??

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Re: Do you think free will man-made relations are stronger than blood relations??

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It depends on personal experience. In some cases, blood relations can be very strong, but in most cases, the manmade relations are stronger. There are cases whereby friends will come in handy than family because in families, people tend to become too familiar with one another hence becoming apathetic towards one another.
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I believe the bonds are very similar. The difference being that individuals work harder on the bonds outside of family. There is more patience and these friends are not taken for granted like family members are.
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I believe A free will man relationship will be stronger than a blood relationship because it’s not something already decided for one but a choice an individual makes everyday.
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Bertha Jackson wrote: 25 Sep 2020, 07:42 I believe the bonds are very similar. The difference being that individuals work harder on the bonds outside of family. There is more patience and these friends are not taken for granted like family members are.
Yeah I too believe that what is easily obtained is taken for granted and hence blood relations do not need extra polishing or efforts to keep them bound and we work quite easy on these relations. On the contrary non blood relations always keep us on the edge and are purely based upon give and take.
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I think we use blood as an automatic door opener, there is an expectation that we will look out for each other because we are related. A chosen connection is a truer foundation for a relationship and has more equity for each person involved. The ultimate relationship is when you choose to connect with someone who is related, a friendship in that situation can be the strongest of all partnerships. We are talking platonic here, right?
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I truly believe we do have stronger relationships with our friends rather than blood because sure, they’re our blood, but that doesn’t mean we always get along or always hang out. I believe if you could you would hang out more with your friends rather than your family.
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They are definitly stronger as you grow up, when your a child its more about nurture but as you grow up you obviously start to understand more things and that changes your mind about things, reaching more towards 'man made relationships'.
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Yes I do think so. Free will man-made are overall stronger because of that free will, the choice. People tend to forget that. People can be blood-related but indifferent to each other because they haven’t spend any time together so they don’t know each other that well. A relationship of any kind takes work and the actively chosen commitment.
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I think man made relations can be stronger than blood relations in certain situations. Family relationships can be toxic and just unhealthy which makes for a weak bond. You can walk away from both relationships when necessary.
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We often come across incidents in real life where blood relations fail to fulfill their part and the relations otherwise prove to be true. However, family is something that always stand for us, especially our parents. But I couldn't disagree with the fact that new-found relations can also become a part of family no matter the blood relations.
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I believe manmade relations are stronger than blood they often come in handy especially in times of certain situations one is going through but by the end of the day it depends with an individual choice.
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I believe that this depends on how we feel towards our biological families. Sometimes when a person has a difficult type of family they long for a place where they can feel belongingness and that's the time that they develop ties outside blood relations. When the family we grew up with are not providing our needs emotionally, we tend to reach out to others. However if our family is in a position where all needs are met, the tendencies to long for other relationships are not that prioritized. Whether it is biological or man-made ties, both of them have unique advantages. They are essential to the growth of each individual.
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Yes,it is possible to foster platonic relationships that are stronger than familial ones. The thing about family is that it is almost like we have no choice, we are related by blood and there's nothing we can do. But with platonic relationships, you choose each other despite the fact that there is nothing that requires you to do so. I think that's very beautiful.
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I believe it all depends. However, if I had to choose I would say that a man creates a family and it does not have to be related to blood at all.
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Joseph_ngaruiya wrote: 04 Sep 2020, 14:26
B Creech wrote: 04 Sep 2020, 09:57 I think there are times they can be stronger, depending on a person's relationship with their family. I have had friends I made outside of family that have very strong bonds and lasted. However, I still believe blood will take precedence over man-made relationships in the long run.
I'd say it all depends on an individual. It's a collection of commitment, selflessness, and empathy. If a person feels more accepted to a group than their blood-related persons, he/she might eventually have to have a stronger connection with them.
I agree with you that this depends a lot on the person. Sometimes a person can connect immensely with someone and have a much better and healthier relationship than with someone in their family.
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