Do you think free will man-made relations are stronger than blood relations??

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pricklypurple wrote: 08 Oct 2020, 16:27 I think we often feel an obligation to our blood relations.
I agree. I think this can breed resentment, particularly when you have a family member you don't really like but feel the need to spend time with or help out just because they're "family".
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Yes, I think relations that we make by our free will sometimes last for longer period because we connect to those people who are quite similar to us. Hence, there are less chances of difference of opinion. As for blood relations, often we take them for granted and hence this leads to differences and the bonds get strained.
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In a way, free will man-made relations are stronger than blood relations but I also believe that they both have their own unique places of manifestations. Blood relation is still a very strong bond all the same.
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Blood is thicker than water is isn't always true. What makes it thick is the relationship over time. And if that relationship can be gotten elsewhere then why not.
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In my opinion, I believe that blood relations are far stronger than free will relations with others. Friends and lovers may come and go, but often, family is always there for you.

Nevertheless, the bond shared between Kalayla, Maureen, and Lena is one of those special kinds that last a lifetime.
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I think these relationships can be much more valuable and effectual in our lives. Some people have great relationships with their family and it is something the rest of us are jealous of. I think having a family bond can be something that no matter what happens, you can count on them. Of course they have to choose to be there for each other as well. A man made relationship can be just as powerful. When we know someone loves us because they choose to and don't feel obligated, it can be much more meaningful. Lena and Kalayla were ones who benefited from this type of relationship.
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I think it differs with each person's experience. Some families have the worst relationships and those members of the families tend to forge happy bonds with people they meet outside the blood lineage. Although in most cases family bonds are stronger than man-made bonds.
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I think it depends on an individual. Although some of us may believe blood is thicker than water, for some, blood ties are not that strong. A man made bond can be strong after a while because trust is needed, and we all know it takes a while for someone to earn one's trust.
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As Hitchens wrote in his memoir, these "free will man-made relations" described above is born out of a common language, not meaning both people speak English, but rather for that time and place, two individuals speaking with the same convictions, tone, pace, etc.
Blood relations can be a fool's game in that you happen to be birthed into a particular clan, however pleasant, aweful, or privileged.
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I believe that both bonds have their own strengths and weaknesses, but for me free-will man made relations are more special because you chose them yourself. For blood bond, you usually have no choice since you're born with them. In the story, Leena and Kayala had a special relationship. Even though they were not blood related, Leena still cared for Kayala as if she was her child.
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Aishwarya Chhabra wrote: 03 Sep 2020, 05:30 Relations formed as a result of circumstances, attractions, similarities out of free will sometimes travel long periods of our lifetimes than our sometimes imposed closest blood relations. This is something that happened among the three- Kalayla , Maureen and Lena in KALAYLA .What are your opinions??
Like you well mentioned most of our closed blood relations are imposed. And are for that reason not as strong as those formed willingly through attractions and similarities.
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hellonewuser wrote: 05 Sep 2020, 02:36 "I wish everyone knew the entire saying. It's not 'blood is thicker than water,' it's 'the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.' Meaning relationships built by choice are stronger than those built by birth."Only those relations are the one you should care which are true to you not because of need of you"
I’ve never heard that! Thank you for informing me!
I know so many people that don’t have love in their families. I think that situation makes it very possible to have more loyalty and caring for chosen family than blood family.
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I personally belief that the relationship you put the most effort into are the one that will become the strongest. That being said, it is often easier to approach a family member when you are in need than it is to approach a friend.
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It has been my experience that all relationships are what you make them. Blood relationships can be strong if, for no other reason, there is more chance for shared traits and connections. Man-made relationships can be strong because you are in the relationship by choice and are likely due to connections and chance similarities. Healthy versions of each type require effort and care to build needed trust and love regardless of how they originated.
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Absolutely. Though I agree with other posters who say relationships are what you make of them, I also believe that in many ways, blood relationships are often taken for granted because they have that unbreakable foundation, and aren’t nurtured as much as relationships where there isn’t a biological bond.
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