heritage & mothers

[Dannyphery]

I felt Hillary was scared of repeating the cycle of what she had with her mother... I think it helped her to tread with caution in her dealings and this actually made her a better mother.

[SophiaNd]

Our past experiences always have a way of reflecting in our present decisions and actions as it did to Hilary and her relationship with her daughter.

[Purti10]

I think Hillary's relationship with her mother reflected a lot in her relationship with her daughter. Every time something happened with Claire the thought of her mother popped in her mind. She always compared herself with her mother thinking if she was doing right or not.

[Amanda Nicole Newton]

I think that a lot of times parents think of things their parents did wrong and try to do better. Sometimes, it works... Sometimes, it doesn't. I agree that flaws like these can make a character really relatable and seem more like a person than just words on a page.

[Jorge Leon Salazar]

Definitively, the upbringing and the learning that can be obtained from the mother is important, but always the human being has the opportunity to reason and decide not to make the mistakes of their parents and try to make the children even better.

[Carolreads30]

I feel as though Hillary was very involved with Claire due to the horrible way her mom left her when she was a child. Hillary was extra careful with making sure that Claire knew she was loved and very important. It was a fabulous way to showcase a relationship with the two of them.

[Laurina Michael Olowoniran]

You know, everyone has history and this affects us whether negatively or positively. It's either we are trying to avoid repeating it or doing something so we have a better experience. I think that was what happened to Hilary. Her past experiences have made her into this person we see. I do not actually blame her.

[Katherine Smith]

I think that for many adults who grow up in dysfunctional households they think of themselves as inadequate especially when it comes to having relationships. When you are abandoned at an early age, you feel like you are unlovable and you crave someone to love you no matter what. I think that it requires a lot of internal reflection and courage to fight against your past in order to create a brighter future.

[Gifted Soul]

Hillary's responsibility is an exemplary display of how we are not defined by our past. She basically defied the odds and became the best mother Claire would wish for.

[AntonelaMaria]

When mistakes happen in any area of our lives, we pick up our lessons and improve on them in order to avoid repeating such mistakes. Hillary was abandoned, and with that consciousness she tried as much as possible to build a better relationship with her daughter.

Yes there were times when it seemed like her actions weren't matching her words, but we should understand that we are humans full of imperfections.

And that is what I think too. Our imperfections are what make us human. Her wish to do better is what defines her a good mother.

[AntonelaMaria]

I think Hillary's relationship with her mother reflected a lot in her relationship with her daughter. Every time something happened with Claire the thought of her mother popped in her mind. She always compared herself with her mother thinking if she was doing right or not.

Do you think that is something we do a lot...as humans always competing and comparing with others? She did it in a good way, she did better. I know people who justify their bad behavior as "well I didn't do as bad as such and such person"!

[AntonelaMaria]

You know, everyone has history and this affects us whether negatively or positively. It's either we are trying to avoid repeating it or doing something so we have a better experience. I think that was what happened to Hilary. Her past experiences have made her into this person we see. I do not actually blame her.

I don't blame her either. As a matter of fact, that makes her more relatable.

[AntonelaMaria]

I think that for many adults who grow up in dysfunctional households they think of themselves as inadequate especially when it comes to having relationships. When you are abandoned at an early age, you feel like you are unlovable and you crave someone to love you no matter what. I think that it requires a lot of internal reflection and courage to fight against your past in order to create a brighter future.

What a great point. You are absolutely right. I mean we forget these inner demons we often fight each and single day or for a long time. She is a fighter. And without the doubt very courageous.

[AntonelaMaria]

How do you think that Hillary’s mother leaving her reflected on her own relationship with her daughter? How often do we fight our past experiences trying to be free of repeating same old mistakes?

This book gained depth trough the theme of heritage and family. It made Hillary more real and relatable character to me. Her struggles are realistic. I could understand her issues with being hesitant about more children and feeling inadequate. Those are such human doubts and especially with mothers.
It made her even better mother in my eyes because she tries so much with everything she knows.

Constantly fight our past to try and create what we want. Many people give up the fight and give into a cycle of family and circumstance.

I guess it is true. Many people choose the easier road.

[Bluecobia]

I think that we all worry about repeating act8that we feel hurt us or those around us. This makes it a logical part of the character 's actions.