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Is this book really offensive?

Post by ButterscotchCherrie »

The author mentions that the reader might be offended by some of the points he makes in this book. Did any of his assertions offend you? Did anything particularly stand out as being "not sugar-coated"? Or did you notice some different tones in the book? Give examples.

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Post by Swiftmover07 »

I did not find any of the content offensive. I love how nothing was sugar-coated it makes the content relatable. One of my favorite examples is where the author says "There is nothing wrong with being selfish and acting on your own best interest"
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Post by Vscholz »

Swiftmover07 wrote:
01 Nov 2018, 23:48
I did not find any of the content offensive. I love how nothing was sugar-coated it makes the content relatable. One of my favorite examples is where the author says "There is nothing wrong with being selfish and acting on your own best interest"
I definitely agree. Sugar coating isn't always the best way to convince people to get their heads out of their butts (lol). Bluntness is sometimes better and more inspiring.
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Post by ShareTheGift »

I also did not find anything offensive in the book. I read it a few months ago as I was looking for a non-fiction read and it was written by a fellow Arizonian.

I enjoyed the straight talk of the book as a matter of fact. I have been a manager of people for over 20 years and found that most of it rang true with advice I would often give people who reported to me or even to my bosses.

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Post by chelhack »

I do not believe that this book is offensive. I believe that it is straightforward and very direct. The world is not going to take it easy on a person just because they can not handle the ugly truth and if one is unable to adjust to the weight of the world then the only other option is to break.
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Post by Julehart1 »

I didn’t find anything in the book offensive. I like the direct approach in how to deal with issues. I don’t get offended easily. You need to always face the truth and not delude yourselves about things.

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Post by OloladeO »

I did not find anything offensive in the book.

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Post by Ayat paarsa »

I found it a little offended and inveighed, for example when author said: "If you are a cerebral individual who loves to spend lots of time overthinking and discussing the same issues, then this book May be not for you." That means, the author takes "overthinking" as a weakness. But all my resentness vanished when author said, take your weaknesses as your strength.He also said be proud for what you are, I am a thinker and I am proud of it.
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Post by Sen_Suzumiya »

I don't think the author had any plans to offend anyone. I think he wrote this "just in case". We live in a world, nowadays, that gets easily offended by the slightest thing. I can only imagine how a straightforward book like this one might displease some people. Personally, I've learned to respect other people's opinion and I always try to see things from their perspective, thus I didn't find this book offensive at all.
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Post by FictionLover »

I did not find this book offensive, but I have know people who thought the philosophy of "owning your life and your mistakes" is like blaming the victim.

I happen to believe that we are more in charge in our health than most people think (especially for chronic and environmentally related diseases, not genetic ones) and people DO get very upset by the thought that they are responsible for something that is causing them so much suffering. They see it as saying it is their fault they are sick, instead of understanding that many health issues are related to diet, stress, or smoking (for example) all of which can be changed.
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Post by Brittanygraves1995 »

Although some parts of the book could be considered offensive to other readers, I did not take offense to any part. Wdowiak is simple and straight to the point in his writing. I believe that his overall assertiveness makes people want to take action in their own lives.

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Post by cpru68 »

I did not find anything in the book that was offensive. I think people who are really into victim mentality might find it off-putting to have someone tell them that we are the cause of our own problems. This book makes people turn inward and take responsibility for themselves, and for some, that isn't what they want to hear.
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Post by Italiansweety1982 »

I find it better to be blunt sometimes, to the point. Sugar coating can be too passive.

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Post by HollandBlue »

I personally didn't find anything offensive, and I enjoyed the author's viewpoint and conversational tone throughout the book. I think that a person who likes to play the victim might be put off by the way the book is written, advising that 'but' is no excuse for not achieving the best life has to offer.
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Post by KristyKhem »

I don't think the author meant any offense to readers. On the contrary, I think he was just being frank with most of his points. I think this was a refreshing approach to the genre. His frankness also harmonizes with the no-nonsense, action-oriented nature of the book.

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