Should there be a dad?
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Re: Should there be a dad?
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I agree! For me I don’t think it harmed it in any way, I just feel like it would be interesting to see what a dad would do. A pet is a good idea, I never think of these things since I’d seems so simple. As you said, we shall see!Charlaigne wrote: ↑03 Jul 2018, 22:19 This is the first time I realised the dad figure was missing! For the record, a dad and some siblings would make the story more interesting. Maybe even a pet (and showing pet-related chores). We don't know what the author intended so will have to wait to see where she goes next.
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As did I, actually. It wasn't until this post came up that I realized it wasn't actually ever made clear if he was or not.JudasFm wrote: ↑02 Aug 2018, 09:40Agreed. I'm all in favor of a 'nuclear' family, but I don't want the emphasis on that to overshadow the story.jessinikkip wrote: ↑01 Aug 2018, 19:28 Ambiguity isn't always a bad thing, as evidenced by this book. It's good to see the change here from breaking down a traditional family to more of a "figure it out on your own" approach.
Some parents are also better off divorced. A Mom and Dad who hate each other but stay together "for the sake of the children" end up doing more harm than good, and that's without getting into the issue of DV. Two parent families are all very well, but there's nothing wrong with coming from a single-parent family either
And I agree that the Mystery Man in the pool could be Dad. At least, that's how I saw it
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Bookmermaid wrote: ↑02 Jul 2018, 12:28Miriam Molina wrote: ↑01 Jul 2018, 16:01 Toni is shown enjoying many activities with Mom and his friends. I appreciate that family and friendship are subtly depicted as joyful experiences. But hey, we don't see Dad!
Do you agree with me that a dad would be a wonderful addition to the story? Dads should be shown as interested in their children's everyday lives. Maybe Dad could join as the dishwasher. What a resounding message that would send!
I agree that it would be great to have a second parent in there somewhere! A lot of books like this tend to depict only one parent (which isn't unusual but still it would be cool to have more with more than one). Get that other parent in there and show th importance of family and spending time with family!
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Excellent point. After reading your post I think it would be more inclusive somehow to not have an official 'Dad'. I think it would speak to all those who are not in conventional two-parent families.JudasFm wrote: ↑02 Aug 2018, 09:40Agreed. I'm all in favor of a 'nuclear' family, but I don't want the emphasis on that to overshadow the story.jessinikkip wrote: ↑01 Aug 2018, 19:28 Ambiguity isn't always a bad thing, as evidenced by this book. It's good to see the change here from breaking down a traditional family to more of a "figure it out on your own" approach.
Some parents are also better off divorced. A Mom and Dad who hate each other but stay together "for the sake of the children" end up doing more harm than good, and that's without getting into the issue of DV. Two parent families are all very well, but there's nothing wrong with coming from a single-parent family either
And I agree that the Mystery Man in the pool could be Dad. At least, that's how I saw it
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I totally agree. A dad means a balanced home setting and sorts of increases the books coverage. If there had been a dad, it most definitely would have had a greater appeal.Charlaigne wrote: ↑03 Jul 2018, 22:19 This is the first time I realised the dad figure was missing! For the record, a dad and some siblings would make the story more interesting. Maybe even a pet (and showing pet-related chores). We don't know what the author intended so will have to wait to see where she goes next.
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He can be just as loving and nurturing as the mother. As children grow up, fathers assume the role of a friend, guide and mentor. So I definitely agree with you that a dad would be a good addition to the story.
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