Could you date someone who doesn't read?

[Maggie_brown_0013]

Could you date someone who doesn't read? I don't mean someone who can't read, but someone who chooses to read almost nothing, and who almost never reads a book. Could you get into a romantic relationship with such a person?

I doubt that I could. I could never get emotionally close to a person who doesn't read books, mainly because we could never discuss a specific book, and the person would never be able to take any of my recommendations let alone make any recommendations of their own to me.

(This is nothing that's happening to me right now, just a random hypothetical that I've been pondering when I can't sleep at night and such. )

I doubt that I could date someone who doesn't read. I get emotionally attached to every single book, and every single character, that I read. Only avid readers understand this level of attachment, and I don't know that any other people can.

[AzzyTheCreep]

I don't know to be quite honest. Of course I enjoy reading and talking about books is absolutely amazing, but as long as they are using their head (even if it's not about reading), I think I would be okay with it? I think it mostly depends on the person though.

[lilac_coquelicot]

No I wont

[June0617]

I guess I could. It'll surely be my mission to get him to read and stay reading. It will prove challenging if he is really not interested and haven't read a book before and sort of just dragging his feet one page to another but it's a start. I don't mean change him and his interests but just to see him hold a book will be fun for me. No pressure, though, cause we are dating not finishing a book report.

[Brandy C]

I have been an avid reader for years and I am married to a non-reader. Reading is a passionate hobby for me. I use books to escape and gain knowledge. However, my husband doesn't share my passion. He is very smart and cable but just doesn't enjoy reading. He does like to hear my opinions and thoughts concerning whatever book I am reading. He will listen intently as I ramble on about a book. He will ask questions and give input. Honestly him not reading doesn't bother me. We still have plenty to talk about and in common.

[IamShing]

yes, why not..as long as he/she is knowledgeable on other things

[ShannonHBC]

Of course I could and I do. Reading is great, it's a good hobby and it teaches you a lot. But it doesn't make anyone any better than others and it's not the only way to explore and learn about the world. There's a lot to learn from the people who are completely different from you and who maybe never got any education. I think I personally benefit much more from my fiancé who has a lot of experience in the real world whereas I myself have just spent my years at the university and in a few short-term jobs.

[flaming_quills]

I think I could, if they had some other passion they were pursuing intently.

[Juliana_Isabella]

I think the reasons people don't read vary widely, so it would depend on that. If the person didn't read because they've always been forced to read for school and never got into reading as a hobby, I could understand that. As long as they're willing to try my favorite books in the same way I'd be willing to try their hobbies, I think I could be open to it.

[janelwhite]

Well, I am married to someone who is not an avid reader. You find other ways to connect. But it would be nice to share a love of books!

[IamShing]

Cool. What does he do then, if you don't mind? He must got something really good that caught your attention.

[ayomie]

I probably would if the person has an awesome personality to make up for it.

[ShannonHBC]

I must say I don't understand this thread at all. Sure it is nice to have some hobbies in common, but what does it really matter if someone doesn't read? If you can't date someone who doesn't read, would you maybe also reject someone who only reads contemporary fiction and likes Harry Potter? Or someone who likes romance? What if they don't like to discuss the books they read, or don't like the books you read?

[thayrabijlstra]

I could, in fact, my girlfriend doesn´t read books at all, I just tell her when I read a book that I like and what´s it about and she just listens to me talk about it hahaha, I mean, I get that it would be nice to date someone that does read and you could recommend them books, etc. But for that I have some of my friends, so no worries!

[LeeleeByoma]

I absolutely could. I enjoy many other activities that we could, possibly, share.