Could you date someone who doesn't read?

[Skye45]

Honestly, it doesn't bother me. My fiancé use to be a very avid reader and still has a love for literature. He doesn't read anymore though. He will let me sit and rant about books to him for hours on end and will even let me read to him. Personally, I think it depends on the person and the relationship in general. Some people out there just hate reading all together and don't see a point in it at all. Those people are monsters.

[mamilla93]

I definitely can't. I actually had this time when I was talking to a guy on a date that was going really well, when suddenly, he replied to my " i love reading books" with "i don't read books at all". It was good bye within minutes.

[Sh3rlockian]

Yes, I could date someone who doesn't read. If by doesn't read, you mean in the traditional sense. They wouldn't have to always have their nose in a printed book, so long as they were interested in other forms and mediums of storytelling. It would be difficult to relate to someone who didn't appreciate fiction for its escape or nonfiction for its educational value, regardless of how they did their "reading".

[briellejee]

I don't think I can. Reading has widened my views and I don't like people saying "why do you even read the book when it has a movie?". Total turn-off. Also, if I date someone who doesn't read, he may not understand why I prefer reading than talking to him sometimes.

[zjacks]

I don't know, I feel like I could, but they would have to be okay with me talking about my books to them! As someone who really likes to deep-dive in the classics when I have the time (most recently was Absolom, Absolom!, which let me tell you, was quite the deep-dive), as well as someone who like to read cheesy murder mysteries on her free time, I would hope that I could rant to them about my books, just as they could rant to me about their tv shows or sports or what-have-you.

[AlphasFemale]

Yes.

I married a person who doesn't enjoy reading. In fact he will sometimes have me read posts and news article and then summarize them for him.

However he understands that I love to read and he supports it. My husband learned the names of my favorite authors and knows most all of their books that I own and/or have already read. He buys me books just because and for my birthday, Christmas, and any other holiday where gift giving is the norm.

He enjoys watching movies and will suggest that we sit down and watch something that he knows I just finished reading. For example I finished reading The Stand and he suggested we watch the movie that same night.

Sometimes our idea of spending quality time together is him sitting on the couch playing a video game and me curled up beside him with my nose in a book. Just enjoying be close to each other.

Finally if I really want to talk about a book he listens.

[nina soledad]

I could, as long as he is a good and decent person. I like books and i like reading, but i think these would not define who i would go out with. Maybe, while dating, i would be able to influence him to read.

[Joe Hadithi]

Absolutely. To each his own. Besides, the more interests the more interesting life will be.

[TheMain_Jane]

Sure, as long as they don't "hate" reading. I don't understand people who hate to read.

[jesscat304]

To be honest reading is an important part of my life and I could only date someone who does not read, as long as they can appreciate and do not mock me because I do. In turn, as long as there is other things we can talk about and still enjoy a life and partnership together it should not be a problem.

[Bluebird03]

I don't think that I could marry someone who doesn't read. It is such a large part of my life. Fortunately I am married to someone who loves to read as much as I do. While we don't always read the same type of books, we do enjoy sharing thoughts and recommendations- and we both love Dan Brown!

[Laura3]

I know I would want him to read scriptures daily. Being united in faith is important to me.

[Babyshamu98]

I think I could date a non-reader, but it would be hard. They would have to respect that I read a lot and that I will ignore them for hours at a time, because I have gotten lost in a book. This is hard for a lot of not-readers to understand.
I could not date someone who hates to read, I can not stand people who live in ignorance and don't want to further their knowledge.
From personal experience I can say that it is not easy to date a reader either. The debates that one falls into about characters and plots can become very heated, very fast. This does put a bit of pressure on the couple.

[decafmama]

I married someone who doesn't like to read! He still actively listens when I talk about books. He is a musician, so although I am not well versed in music theory, he still tells me about the work he does, just as I tell him about what I'm reading and writing about. We share similar struggles and I don't expect him to love the same things I do. Actually, I read while he practices piano, which is an amazing way to share our passions together.

All that is to say I don't think it is necessary to have a partner who reads as long as that partner is respectful and interested in YOU and your passions.

[Adair McClain]

I feel like...no? I mean, it doesn't have to be strictly books, but someone who doesn't read anything, at all? Who choose not to or just doesn't like to? That's a big nope.