Could you date someone who doesn't read?

[vermontelf]

One of the things that I love about discussions with my husband is when we discuss books. However, he almost never reads now, largely because he works such long hours and then his eyes are too sore to read when he finally gets home. We have tried a few audio books, but he tends to fall asleep to those, so discussion is pretty difficult...

[dhwanis]

I would. As long as they are accepting of my need to read and accept that it is my idea of fun. Unfortunately, not a lot of non-readers I have come across have this understanding, so it does make the pool less populated.

[LizzyGirl1]

Of course. Everyone has different strengths and interests. Being able to appreciate and respect each other's preferences is what makes for a great relationship. We don't have to do everything together. Life is about so much more. If you must have reading in common then there is not enough of everything else to make the relationship enjoyable and worthwhile. Plus the person might have different reading preferences that you may not share anyway. Remember that reading enriches our lives and knowledge - it's not just for our social resume! Thanks Scott. This was an interesting topic!

[missfrombliss]

It is a tough question. He would have to be ten times more interesting than a book I'm currently reading.

[Nikolas Farmakis]

Hypothetically speaking, I would be able to because I do not think that someone reading or not reading books can influence whether I romantically like a person.

[jedelyn28]

Yes, because it might enlighten his mind to read a book if he always see me reading books .

[Davewv]

I dated someone who claimed to read but didn’t. We were together a long time, but the more we were together the more I realized that she had only read one series, and used that to say that she liked SF. She weirdly, didn’t have many likes or dislikes. It really got dull, she was intellectually disinterested.

[peter Novler]

Honestly no. Every or almost everyone literate would always love to read. I'ts part of responsibility for the brain. Dating a person who doesn't read will never understand my happiness, and may end up saying that I am crazy, Psycho. Once you get into reading, usually, you are connecting with another audience very involving that you wouldn't want to let go.

[amihughson]

I am currently married to a loving man who doesn't read at all. Books are a huge part of my life and he understands that. Bowling is a huge part of his life and I'm not interested in that at all. While it would be nice to be able to discuss my favorite books with him (and he does listen when I talk about them) I understand that different people have different hobbies. When you fall in love with someone, its usually other qualities that you look for like financial stability and how they treat you. As long as he doesn't dump on your love of books and still gives you space when you're reading, whether he reads or not isn't super important. At least, that's been my experience.

[KingMeraz]

Absolutely not.

Reading is almost as important to me as being physically fit. Books (or at least the last book I enjoyed) are one of the first three things I talk about during early dating along with music and exercise.

While I can co-exist with somebody that doesn't run as much or as often as I do I would not allow myself to be with a woman that does not enjoy reading. It doesn't have to be forcefully literature; even the news or magazine articles can serve the purpose of putting my mind at ease.

You see, I like knowing my partner is constantly learning and sharing something new. Very interesting conversations flourish from reading the same passages and even if our opinions are not always the same we can benefit from eachother's point of views, making our relationship that much more enriching and therefore more durable!

[I_Am_Israt]

For me, it's impossible to date someone who doesn't read books. Reading book is my passion. I will never waste my time with a guy who don't read books.

[Bookworm555]

I'm in a relationship with someone who doesn't read at all. It's fine with me as long as he let's me read, of course. He even turns on extra lights for me and lowers the sound volume on TV in order for me to have my peace and quiet. He's always interested in what I have to say about a book that I'm reading. I think it's really nice of him to show understanding for this passion of mine and for supporting me in my goal to create a library in our own home

[jedelyn28]

Yes , why not I can teach him to read there is no reason not to.

[M_fritz]

Haha! I married a non reader. At first it was super tricky. He felt I wasnt paying attention to him and I was annoyed he would always interrupt my reading. We made it work by me staying up late (I'm a night owl) but had to be in bed by 230am latest but he doesnt disturb me anymore and he feels a lot better.

[Makaylaparker]

As long as they don't think themselves higher than the act of reading, then I would be okay with being in a relationship with them.